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Anger Your Ally
Is anger your ally or is anger your enemy? Is anger something that helps you or something that hurts you? It might surprise you to learn that anger has both positive and negative aspects to it. When something really pisses you off, it can cause you to lose your cool and do destructive things, or it can motivate you to change some things in a really positive way!
See, although anger is a strong emotion, itâ€™s a secondary emotion thatâ€™s actually driven by other emotions. We usually get angry because something caused us to feel that way: Maybe we were betrayed or abandonedâ€¦maybe someone disappointed us or weâ€™re just afraidâ€¦but thereâ€™s usually something else driving our anger.
The trouble is: Anger can get out of control really fast because of what happens in our brains. (Pause) I spoke with my friend whoâ€™s a Professional Counselor recently and he explained the effect our anger has on adrenaline in our brains. Basically our anger releases major amounts of adrenaline in our brains which puts things like reason, logic and judgment to sleep!
So when something really pisses us off, it causes this â€œadrenaline boostâ€? in our brains which keeps us from thinking straight! Thatâ€™s when we can do thingsâ€¦sometimes some not so nice thingsâ€¦that can have long lasting, profound effects on our life! We might think weâ€™re thinking straight, but weâ€™re not and it can really hurt us! (Pause) If that sounds like youâ€¦your anger sometimes drives you to do things you arenâ€™t very proud ofâ€¦maybe itâ€™s time to get some help!
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